The Power of Regret: How Looking Backward Moves Us Forward
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- Author：Daniel H Pink
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Reviews
Wendy
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I listened to the audiobook。 The author sounded just like Dan Harris！ It was a nice overview of the different type of regrets， nothing too ground breaking。
مروة الجزائري
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An impressive take on regret！ I will write a decent review in no time。
Eric
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Phenomenal read。 The Power of Regret tackles an important but overlooked and misunderstood subject， summarizes and organizes what science has to say about it， and integrates everything into key takeaways and a compelling， high conviction thesis on how to （re）think regret。 As usual， Pink's prose is concise， witty， and reinforced with memorable stories。 Highly recommended。 Phenomenal read。 The Power of Regret tackles an important but overlooked and misunderstood subject， summarizes and organizes what science has to say about it， and integrates everything into key takeaways and a compelling， high conviction thesis on how to （re）think regret。 As usual， Pink's prose is concise， witty， and reinforced with memorable stories。 Highly recommended。 。。。more
Janice Robertson
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Definitely enjoyed Pink’s insights on regrets。 I decided to read this book because I do have a few regrets through my life and I was interested to see what the book revealed。 Most useful to me was that he divided peoples regrets into four types and that really appealed to my logical brain。 I also appreciated his advice that， when making a decision and trying to anticipate whether you will have regret about that action， first look and see if the consequences will involve one of the four types of Definitely enjoyed Pink’s insights on regrets。 I decided to read this book because I do have a few regrets through my life and I was interested to see what the book revealed。 Most useful to me was that he divided peoples regrets into four types and that really appealed to my logical brain。 I also appreciated his advice that， when making a decision and trying to anticipate whether you will have regret about that action， first look and see if the consequences will involve one of the four types of regret。 If it won’t， then just be a “sufficer”， （someone who happily says “good enough”）， make your decision and move on。 This is because your choice， and your regret （eg。 I should’ve bought the name brand instead of the cheaper no-name brand） won’t really matter or last long so there’s no point agonizing over the decision。My favourite take away from the book is that people from the Global Regret Survey have many more regrets over inaction （things they didn’t do， risks they didn’t take， times they didn’t speak up） than they have regrets over actions they took， which I interpreted to mean be bold and take the risk。 。。。more
Josh
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Very interesting for me。 This book covers anything and everything that you can think about regarding regret。 And his conclusion？ That regret is useful for many situations。 We shouldn't live our whole entire life through the lens of regret， but when handled correctly， regret can spur on great change。He gives a really cool example of an art form that was born in the 15th century in Japan。 A Japanese shogun dropped a bowl and sent the damaged bowl to China for repair。 When it came back， it was all Very interesting for me。 This book covers anything and everything that you can think about regarding regret。 And his conclusion？ That regret is useful for many situations。 We shouldn't live our whole entire life through the lens of regret， but when handled correctly， regret can spur on great change。He gives a really cool example of an art form that was born in the 15th century in Japan。 A Japanese shogun dropped a bowl and sent the damaged bowl to China for repair。 When it came back， it was all stapled together and looked like crap。 He charged his subordinates to repair it better。 They broke it back into pieces， sanded each piece down， and pieced it back together with lacquer that had gold embedded into it。 The purpose of this， then， wasn't to restore it to look new; rather， it was to make it into something new – something better: kintsugi。After conducting the largest worldwide regret survey to date， Pink offers four major categories for people's regrets: foundation regrets， boldness regrets， moral regrets， and connection regrets。Foundation regrets refer to those associated with stability: finances， health， studying。Boldness regrets refer to "If only" statementsMoral regrets are complicated because morals are complicated。Connection regrets are person-to-person regrets。 Schisms are more rare than driftsGenerally here are some interesting findings。- People regret inactions more than actions， especially in the long term。 （2:1 ratio）- The same 5 words showed up again and again: "Not being true to myself。"- Top moral regrets in order: marital infidelity， bullying， and abortion- To avoid connection regrets， don't trust your judgment as to whether a situation will be awkward。 We're generally poor judges as to how awkward a situation will be （almost always overestimating the awkwardness）。 See the study called "Mistakenly Seeking Solitude。"- The more likely someone's income， the more likely that person is to have had a career regret。- The people who address their regrets with self-compassion are more likely to change their behavior than those who approach their regrets with self-esteem。 See the study done by Kristin Neff。- Regret lotteries >> Regular lotteries- Jeff Bezos employs regret minimization as a life skill。- Anticipating regrets is helpful， but can sometimes lead to decision paralysis， risk aversion， first-instinct fallacies， and lower test scores。 。。。more
William Susanto
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As a teen， this book really open my eyes on what the real world is like （full of regrets）， and it helps me to anticipate and cope with regrets
Laura Skladzinski
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In researching this book， Daniel Pink conducted the "World Regret Survey"， capturing more than 16，000 regrets from people of all nationalities; using that data， he categorizes the different types of regrets and explains how you can minimize your regrets and/or use them for good。 I found this book really interesting and easy to read， and loved the positive message that regrets can be a good thing and it's better not to have "no regrets"。 Although I see how people might feel the book was repetitiv In researching this book， Daniel Pink conducted the "World Regret Survey"， capturing more than 16，000 regrets from people of all nationalities; using that data， he categorizes the different types of regrets and explains how you can minimize your regrets and/or use them for good。 I found this book really interesting and easy to read， and loved the positive message that regrets can be a good thing and it's better not to have "no regrets"。 Although I see how people might feel the book was repetitive， I thought Pink did a good job of using new examples to drive home the key points so they really stick， so I didn't feel like it was too long。 At the end of the book， I love how Pink provides guidance on avoiding logical fallacies that shape your decisionmaking and minimize regrets （often at the expense of better decisions）。 Overall， this was both interesting and practical， with a great summary at the end full of tactical tips - highly recommended！ 。。。more
Rachel
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What do you regret？ When I think back on my life， I feel like it's a mixed bucket of 'no regrets' and any regrets that I do have tend to be quite silly or not incredibly serious （such as missed opportunities e。g。 'why didn't I ask for their number？'， 'why didn't I study harder so I could get 1% more and get into a London university？'， and while not very serious， there's an array of small dishonesty regrets， kindness and friendship regrets from a long time ago when I was much younger）。Sometimes w What do you regret？ When I think back on my life， I feel like it's a mixed bucket of 'no regrets' and any regrets that I do have tend to be quite silly or not incredibly serious （such as missed opportunities e。g。 'why didn't I ask for their number？'， 'why didn't I study harder so I could get 1% more and get into a London university？'， and while not very serious， there's an array of small dishonesty regrets， kindness and friendship regrets from a long time ago when I was much younger）。Sometimes when I mull over and unpick some of these regrets that I have （like friendships that end）， I often feel like there was always a reason why I did those things or why things unravelled like they did。 But there's always a lesson imparted， a way to make amends， apologise， move forward and take better actions/make better decisions in future。 Be a kinder， more patient， more humble and understanding and less judgmental person （still a work in progress）。The Power of Regret argues that instead of believing we can live a life without regrets， we should embrace them， lean deep into the past， and contemplate how we can use our regrets to propel forward to be better versions of ourselves， live alongside our regrets， and take away the key lessons our regrets have taught us so we can all live a better， happier， more meaningful life。 The book provides a framework for overcoming different types of regret and shares tales of regret from people of all ages from all corners of the world。As the author puts it， 'Regret makes me human。 Regret makes me better。 Regret gives me hope。''Framing regret as an opportunity rather than a threat helps us transform it。 When you feel the spear of regret， you have three possible responses。 You can conclude that feeling is for ignoring – and bury or minimise it。 That leads to delusion。 You can conclude that feeling is for feeling – and wallow in it。 That leads to despair。 Or you can conclude that feeling is for thinking – and address it。 What does this regret tell you？ What instructions does it offer for making better decisions？'Many thanks to @definitelybooks for this review copy - get The Power of Regret from your local bookstore :） 。。。more
Msimone
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When we experience an unfortunate outcome to ourself or someone else， we might feel awful， feel hurt， or self-blame。 However， the healthiest response we could have to regret is to accept it and then move on towards a better life。 According to Pink， regret not only can make us feel better about ourselves; it can produce a positive outcome such as boosting future performance， or helping us start out on a new path。 Regret can trigger a cognition of fucking up， not an ignoring of a feeling that cont When we experience an unfortunate outcome to ourself or someone else， we might feel awful， feel hurt， or self-blame。 However， the healthiest response we could have to regret is to accept it and then move on towards a better life。 According to Pink， regret not only can make us feel better about ourselves; it can produce a positive outcome such as boosting future performance， or helping us start out on a new path。 Regret can trigger a cognition of fucking up， not an ignoring of a feeling that continues to gnaw and destruct。 While there are negative reactions to regret such as delusion and despair， it is possible to undermine them。 Pink explores the deep structure of regrets and among the categories he explores in this book are， foundation， boldness， moral and connection regrets。 But we can respond to all these regrets through positive action which he recommends。 Positive actions help undo the damage to ourselves and others; they also make us more compassionate to others and especially to ourselves。 The biggest take away from this book is that self-compassion contributes to behavior change because by accepting regret and continuing to live with it， we are more likely to improve our behavior。 。。。more
Jan Carlson
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I found this book very interesting。 It's written from a scientific perspective and yet it's infused with empathy and humor。 The author used the largest sampling of American attitudes about regret ever conducted and his own World Regret Survey to identify four core regrets that most people have。 He then provides ways to transform existing regrets and to anticipate future regrets。 Many examples of regrets people have experienced are included in the book。 I found this book very interesting。 It's written from a scientific perspective and yet it's infused with empathy and humor。 The author used the largest sampling of American attitudes about regret ever conducted and his own World Regret Survey to identify four core regrets that most people have。 He then provides ways to transform existing regrets and to anticipate future regrets。 Many examples of regrets people have experienced are included in the book。 。。。more
Raney Simmon
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To view on Rainy Day's Books， Video Games and Other Writings: https://rainyday。blog/2022/03/21/book。。。Rating: 3。5 starsThis book about regret and its power is an unforgettable read。 Jammed full of knowledge that takes more than one sitting to digest， Daniel Pink is very insightful and knowledgeable when it comes to discussing regret in human life and the role each of us must play with it。 From discussing the four distinct types of regret we each experience to how to go about turning our regretfu To view on Rainy Day's Books， Video Games and Other Writings: https://rainyday。blog/2022/03/21/book。。。Rating: 3。5 starsThis book about regret and its power is an unforgettable read。 Jammed full of knowledge that takes more than one sitting to digest， Daniel Pink is very insightful and knowledgeable when it comes to discussing regret in human life and the role each of us must play with it。 From discussing the four distinct types of regret we each experience to how to go about turning our regretful actions into a positive direction， Pink uses his research and knowledge to transform regret into a powerfully positive force we can harness to our advantage。 As a reader， I found that Pink transformed my understanding of what regret truly is into something that can be more insightful than I initially expected。I found the way regret was discussed in each chapter insightful。 I particularly enjoyed how he brought about discussing all the different types of regret a person can have by providing real-life examples。 While most of the examples provided were things I couldn’t particularly relate to， I feel like the context of the regrets discussed made sense to me。 The research he used to back up his perspective was interesting to read as it helped tie any potential loose ends together。What I didn’t enjoy when reading The Power of Regret， however， is that how to deal with your own regrets isn’t fully discussed。 Yes， he mentioned a couple helpful pieces of information regarding what you can do when handling a regret you have。 However， he never fully explained this information to you as the reader。 If anything， this book covers the subject of dealing with your own regrets for a short amount of time in comparison to the discussion had about all the different types of regret you can experience。I also would’ve loved to have gotten more information with regards to how dealing with your own regrets benefits you。 I feel like this would’ve been an interesting topic to have brought up through this book because then as a reader， I can understand how powerful dealing with my own regrets could truly be。 Also would’ve loved to see Pink discuss some of his own personal regrets too。 Not because I want to know all about his personal life， but to see how he handled some of the biggest regrets in his life using the knowledge he’s shared in this book。 Overall， I enjoyed reading The Power of Regret。 I found the overall information gleamed within its pages very insightful and something everyone could learn a little bit from。 It made me reflect on some of my own life choices I’ve made and think about what would’ve happened if I’d done some things a little differently。 。。。more
Mike
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I really enjoy books that explore in understandable detail subjects like "Regret"。 I'm glad I have my regrets。 These regrets have helped me chart my life course。 I really enjoy books that explore in understandable detail subjects like "Regret"。 I'm glad I have my regrets。 These regrets have helped me chart my life course。 。。。more
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Carla
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Review will come。。。2022 Books #25
Carey
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Love Daniel Pink's books。 This did not live up to his previous efforts。 I loved the research aspect。 I appreciate that this is a new research area， but too much lore （write down your regrets or say them out loud）。 Some interesting points。Overall， this book seems like it was written under the editor's timeline， not the author's。 I expect better from Daniel Pink and will be awaiting his next （better） book。 Love Daniel Pink's books。 This did not live up to his previous efforts。 I loved the research aspect。 I appreciate that this is a new research area， but too much lore （write down your regrets or say them out loud）。 Some interesting points。Overall， this book seems like it was written under the editor's timeline， not the author's。 I expect better from Daniel Pink and will be awaiting his next （better） book。 。。。more
Bryan
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Though it seems innately human， regret is tough。 But it is， nevertheless， part of the human experience。 If we did not experience it would we get “better”？ Daniel Pink brings to light many ‘ah ha’ moments for me， but I already knew these things。 He does give some ideas on how to mitigate the negative effects of regret。 If it’s something big， go into the future and see how you may regret it。 If it’s something small， like a microwave purchase， choose and move on。 No reason to dwell。
Jeff
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Another book that has an intriguing/helpful premise but only needs the space of a podcast to provide 80% of its value。 The notion of 4 fundamental types of regrets feels useful and true。 As does the steps we can take to harness regret without being overcome by it。
Lindsay Wilcox
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I love psychology books like this， and Daniel Pink is a master at sharing information in an approachable way。 It’s fascinating to think of categorizing regrets and using them to improve future behavior。
Drew
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Some interesting stuff here， but honestly it could have been an article not a book。 Appropriate for Lent， though。
Holly
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Some obvious stuff， but really good perspectives and food for thought。 worth a read。
Melissa Rockman
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Easy listen and some interesting takeaways
Amy Hageman
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This is a nonfiction book on regret and how that can move people forward。 Much of the book focuses on survey results on regret， with top regrets divided into four categories: Foundation， boldness， moral， and connection regrets。 East read and the type of book I love。
Deb
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This was a bit repetitive for me。Okay like how the author broke regret into two depths and the concept of use nag regret as a learning tool。
Patricia Moran
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Makes me thinkIt is one of those books where a few times I found myself thinking I was going to quit before the end。 But I found so much in the book provides context for my life and other people's lives。 It is a seed planting book。 There are ideas and concepts that will take time to mature into seriously tasty fruit。 Makes me thinkIt is one of those books where a few times I found myself thinking I was going to quit before the end。 But I found so much in the book provides context for my life and other people's lives。 It is a seed planting book。 There are ideas and concepts that will take time to mature into seriously tasty fruit。 。。。more
Lainey
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I almost quit reading because the book started with a pretty strong pop psychology， fluffy vibe。 But， I’m glad I kept reading。 Daniel Pink humanizes and categorizes regrets， while offering valuable insights on how one can harness its power
Dave Irwin
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Super quick read。 This was a really quick pop psychology book about regret。 Pink mostly regurgitates other， less infamous scientists， pulling their studies into the work where appropriate without providing many contexts about the wider studies themselves。 I read recently， in Effortless by Greg McKeown， that authors who publish books in this genre are on an 18-month cycle for publishers and their career as writers。 I cannot help but see this book as an example of that cycle。 It is a technically c Super quick read。 This was a really quick pop psychology book about regret。 Pink mostly regurgitates other， less infamous scientists， pulling their studies into the work where appropriate without providing many contexts about the wider studies themselves。 I read recently， in Effortless by Greg McKeown， that authors who publish books in this genre are on an 18-month cycle for publishers and their career as writers。 I cannot help but see this book as an example of that cycle。 It is a technically cohesive book， but it did not drive any real lessons for me。 Drive and When definitely had more impact on me。 While this is a similar style， I cannot help but wonder if this is one book too far by this author。 It made me feel similar to Malcolm Gladwell's latest book， Talking To Strangers。 The science is too vaguely explained， the message too bland， and some of the supporting evidence is presented so flimsily it does more harm than good。This book is well written， it is just bland and the takeaways are far less helpful。 One of which is to start a bloody regret club。 The author explains this works like a book club except friends come together to talk about their regrets and hold each other accountable。 Who the hell is going that？ And another thing， I am very tired of people using It's A Wonderful Life as a case study for decision making。 This film is a work of FICTION。 Sure， fiction holds lessons we can learn but it should not be used as a case study for making decisions that have real-life consequences。 。。。more
Carol
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As always accessible and practical
Kbeckermann
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Recommended - well researched and readable。
Rob Nicholson
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Great book。 Loved the samples of regrets spread throughout the book。
Jessica
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